Vanilla Friends

We had a situation that came up the other day and no it is not the first time. The question is should you reveal your identity as a swinger to your vanilla friends (vanilla friends means a friend that is not in the Swinglifestyle). Let me start with yesterday; I was talking with an old friend that I have known for 10 plus years and kind of got cornered on the Website. We knew that this would happen even planned on what we would say. No we are not ashamed of our lifestyle choice but we are careful as to who we tell. None the less I was faced with the situation of tell or make up some lie. Personally I feel honesty is the best policy and since I have known this person for over 10 years I figured they wouldn’t be that surprised by it. However like we mentioned earlier this is not the first time this has come up… In the past when we have shared this we with other vanilla friends we have basically gotten three responses
1. You’re WHAT… followed by a polite oh that’s cool and then the friendship fades away to the point of no contact.
2. REALLY… Followed with we/I have always been curious about that (if this is a male he typically sees if he can fuck my wife, Females try this too however we have found that this usually doesn’t work out well).
3. Huh… I can see that followed by acceptance (this is very rare… Usually people are curious and number two comes into play).
Now the question becomes what will yesterday’s conversation turn into? Time will tell… Is the Swinglifestyle like living a secret life…? Not really we have are vanilla friends and we have our Swinger friends we tend to have a closer more open relationship with our Swinger friends and no not because of sex it is because they are less judgmental and more open-minded so we feel less restricted in our conversations. The choice of revealing your lifestyle to your non lifestyle friends is a very personal one and definitely something that shouldn’t be done in passing. But it is just that a personal choice one that you’ll have to make for yourself. We don’t think anyone can tell you what to do in this area only share their own personal experience and let you make that choice based on your knowledge of the friend / friends in question.

Yet another great article

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A little more about us.

Someone asked us (the Owners) for more information about us. Well where to begin, we started swinging quite a few years ago. Are first experience was with another single male actually a friend of ours and that experience started one hell of a ride. We then joined a couple of sites and did the whole online thing of emailing and chatting with other couples, single males, and single females. Our next experience was another couple and that was fun yet uncomfortable because they were more experienced and wanted to do full swap… We just weren’t there yet… we were enjoying ourselves yet as newbie’s the emotions flowed out of us… Jealousy, insecurity, fear… thus came the rules … No Means No… communication is a must… we very rarely play with someone when we first meet. The keyword phrase… Our safety word that lets each other know if we are uncomfortable… and no one pushes the other into doing something they are not ready to do… and one thing we have found that works well for us even though it might seem cold or sluty is we don’t play with the same people over and over again. The reason for this is to avoid getting personally attached to someone outside of the core relationship. And yes that one was from experience a girlfriend of ours got really close to us and it ended us causing more trouble than it was worth. Now even though we have been in the Swinglifestyle for years that doesn’t mean we have been with countless people on the contrary we don’t get out that often. Life happens and we do have kids so our time is limited and we try and make the most of the play time we get…
Now what prompted us making our own website, this one will probably surprise you… One of our kids is disabled and not only were we trying to figure out how we can help him the best way we could we also wanted to help other families in the same situation. You see he has William Syndrome which is very rare and as a matter of fact it took us 6 years before we even found out what was wrong with him. We fought doctors and school districts over and over again who just wanted to medicate him or put him someplace that he wouldn’t be a bother to the other students. So one night the idea hit us let’s make our own swingers / dating site and have the proceeds go to help fund research on Williams Syndrome and help the families who have children with Williams Syndrome. The idea seemed odd yet natural to take something we know and enjoy and use it to help others in need. So we set up a trust then a corporation and then set about designing a site and well here we are.

Is a Swinglifestyle What Your Relationship Is Lacking?

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An Article from a Female prespective

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Another great article

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Swinglifestyle Resources

We have posted a few blogs about the changing view of the Swinglifestyle. The perception of being a swinger has definitely changed over the years yet there remains common misconceptions of the Swinglifestyle.
1. They are a bunch of perverts.
2. Couples who swing don’t love each other.
3. It is a way of cheating on your spouse.
4. Only people on drugs do it.
5. They are unwashed hippies.
There are hundreds of comments we hear that couldn’t be farther from the truth and part of the freedom we get from this lifestyle is that we don’t have to explain ourselves or our actions. However some of them still make us go WTF. For Example: we know this Mormon couple (and no we have nothing against Mormons) that says it is wrong and evil yet they believe in multiple wives you would think that the swinging lifestyle would be a natural fit.
Swinging has grown not only in popularity but also in acceptability here is another great resource for people looking into getting into the lifestyle (NASCA.com.) They have a great section on the Swinglifestyle follow this link to read it. http://nasca.com/states/nasca_faq.html

A great resource for questions in the swinglifestyle

Many people, singles & couples alike have a numerous questions either about entering into the Swinglifestyle or about a situation that came up in the adventures. We try to answer all the questions asked of us; however the one thing we must say is that no matter who you ask you are getting an answer based off of their own personal experience and belief system. So you might find the answer to your question doesn’t quite fit with you. Don’t take one persons answer as law there are always more sides to a story and more than one answer. With all this being said we did a little web surfing ourselves and found someone that handles Q & A very well… and recommend you add them to your favorites (Chim Hedo) so when a question comes up you have more than one option. We still welcome all the questions you have and will answer them happily.

here is an actual Q & A from their site.

Question
QUESTION: My wife and I are interested in swinging, either a threesome with another man or with another couple, maybe later getting involved in an orgy. It is my fantasy to have an orgy with her and watching other men penetrate her. It is her fantasy to have a threesome or with another couple and to be penetrated. We are interested in this because I am the only man that she has ever been with, but I have had sex with other women. We have explored eachothers sexuality completely and are looking for more. We are not trying to fix our relationship. We are not sure how to get started or what to expect. We were also wondering if there are any sites where we could watch videos of real swingers to learn what to expect. Also what should I talk to her about to see if she's interested in my fantasy?

ANSWER: Hi Josh!!
So basically it sounds like you both have the same fantasy.... your's just involves more people!!
The easiest way to get started is online. There is tons of online adult sites where you can meet people these days. Create an an ad, let people no that you are just starting out, participate in chat rooms. In that atmosphere you will soon find out most of them are real people just like you, and many just beginning. Lawyers, teachers, doctors, every walk of life, maybe even your next door neighbor!! You will find that most swingers rooms are the friendliest, non-judgemental group of people on the net.
Your next step would be a swing club. There is both on premise(sex permitted) and off premise(limited sexual activity). They are pretty popular in just about every city nowadays. Don't worry about going there and running into someone you no, they are there for the same reason you are! Swing clubs are the perfect place to meet other couples. It is a "no pressure" environment, where you can just watch the interaction and get to no like minded people. It doesn't mean you have to go there and have sex! They are a nice place to go dance and mingle in a VERY sexually charged environment. Don't expect to "get together" with another couple the first night.
Your probably not going to find too many videos on swingers, besides those that have been made by swingers themselves. They don't look, act, or behave any different than your typical porn movie.
You don't have to "learn" what to expect Josh if you have no expectations at all. Simply go as who you are, a beautiful couple, with self confidence and the rest will fall into place.
If she has expressed her fantasy to you, isn't it only fair that you express your fantasy to her? They really aren't that different, and your both about being honest and open with each other if you have come to this level.
Good luck!
Chim

read more here: http://www.allexperts.com/ep/2707-105679/Adult-Swinging/Chim-Hedo.htm

a great article on friends with benefits

here is a another great article we came across about the swinglifestyle. Check it out.

Friends With Benefits! Taking Yourself Too New Places
So, you want to take your relationship to another plain? You want to enjoy more out of sex and your relationship. Up until now you have always enjoyed being in a female bi sexual relationship. You and your current lover haven’t yet discussed what you really want and you are now ready to show your lover where your sexual proclivities really lean. Is he ready for this? Are you ready to discuss this openly and honestly?
You say to yourself: So what, I am a sexually active, sexually hungry woman? I want more from my relationship. I want to feel everything I can, including knowing again the feel of a woman. I want to remember what it’s like to have the tender touch of a woman’s hand caress my skin. I want to relive the simultaneous feeling of icy chills and fiery electricity coursing through my body. I want to feel what it’s like to have a soft finger gently glide across my nipple again. Most importantly though, is that you want to share all of this with your lover. You can’t imagine doing it without him.

read the rest here: http://www.xxxtopporn.com/friends-with-benefits.html

A couple of questions

Q: We are new to the Swinglifestyle and were thinking about going to a club. What type of club should we go to being new to the swing lifestyle?

A: Well there are a few different types of clubs:
1. Off premise club meaning you go drink (if you do), dance, and meet others and if you hit it off you go somewhere else to take it further.
2. On premise club meaning there are rooms available to play right there.
This is a very simple explanation of clubs. Some do nightclub takeovers then have another location that attendees can go to afterward, while others takeover a large house or mansion, and some are at private homes. The question is what your comfort level is. If you are just starting out in the Swinglifestyle you should talk to each other about full or soft swing and where is your comfort level. Communication is the key to having a rewarding experience in the Swinglifestyle. Personally my wife and I prefer the off-site nightclub takeovers where we can meet people and if we meet a couple or individual we feel comfortable with we can go elsewhere and play privately with them. While we know quite a few that prefer the group setting to the club setting, this is all a matter of personal preference. If you are just starting out we recommend having some guidelines set up between you and your partner - general rules per say. One of the things we have is a key word… If we are talking with another couple or individual and one of us isn’t interested or feels uncomfortable we use that key word and that way the other one knows we should move on. It is a safe word that keeps uncomfortable feelings or issues from entering the experience.



Q: We have noticed that there are more Single Males in the lifestyle than single females we are new and really want to have a single female join us but have also thought about having another guy join us. What do you think about playing with singles Males?

A: Ah yes the infamous single males and the Golden Unicorn (the Single Bi Female ) delimma. Most couples who have entered into this lifestyle started out wanting that hard to find single bi female. As for single males there is an overwhelming number in the Swinglifestyle. Playing with single males can be fun; if you are willing to go through the large number of emails you’ll receive to find one that you are comfortable with. Over the years we have found that finding a good single male to play with is just as difficult as finding a single bi female. Most want to live out some prono fantasy and have very little experience in the lifestyle. If and when we play with a single male they have to meet certain criteria, some prior experience, polite, respectful of our marriage, not in it for just their own personal gratification, of course there ar e more personal preferences but those are more of an attraction nature. It is the major ones that we chose to list here. Here is an idea for you if you are thinking about having another male join you but you really wanted another female why not try meeting with another couple? This could be a good way of exploring what you are interested in a safe way because another couple is usually concerned or mindful of not only their marriage but yours as well. The one thing we can’t stress enough is communication between you and your spouse; it is the best way of keeping jealousy issues to a minimum.

Privacy issues

So last night we were watching the news and saw that Facebook has stated that anything you right on facebook becomes their property for life. Wow that is bold...
In the Swinglifestyle there is a certain level of Discretion that everyone is no only aware of but respectful of. WinkWinkPlayPlay doesn't take control of your every word and hold it hostage. The swinglifestyle is for adults not children and we treat you as such. We have a open guideline if you post a pic it should be you, not copyrighted, offense in nature i.e. violent, children, and the like. Your blogs or forum posting should be non offensive, or attacking. As for the right of content yes if you post a pic we reserve the right to use it on the homepage if you have it as a public photo any nude or private pics won't appear on the homepage. You have the right to or not to have your photo seen. As for blogs we never post those, they only appear on your page, and Forums are only visible to the members inside. If you remove your profile all your content goes with it. We view this as a respect issues as well as privacy one. WinkWinkPlayPlay was made for swinger by swingers and we value our members and their rights, as a matter if fact we invite our members opinions on our site and their input. As president of the site I personally can't see why such a move by facebook was made. I guess this goes beyond sexual freedom and now is a question of simple freedom.

Friends With Benefits Turns Me On

Here is a interesting article from Melody Banner a single female in the swinglifestyle.

Why is it that in this fast paced, super technologically advanced era is sex still so taboo? Why is it that with years of study and statistical data stating the people in general are not happy co-existing within a one on one relationship, does society still try to fit our private lives into the parameters of tradition and normalcy? Both emotionally and physically, people need more than one person to satiate their desires, their wants, and their needs. Why may I ask, is it so bad to be honest with yourself and others about what you want and expect in your life.




The answer is simple. Some of us are enlightened, and the rest are simply afraid. Life hands down many lessons to us as we grow. Our parents, our teachers, our friends all have a hand in our life experiences and our wisdom. Some of us were brought up in guilt heavy environments and others with aloofness, and most somewhere in between. No one can say if it was the right way to raise you. It doesn’t matter, it is in the past. If you are letting your life be directed by things that you can control: Stop. So what if your mom doesn’t agree. She doesn’t have to know. Or should does, because who cares, this is about you, not about the feelings your may hurt. If you don’t allow yourself to live life and experience everything you can, you are not taking full advantage of being a human being. You are not taking full advantage of free will. You do what you want to! Why do you care what others think about you?

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Friends with Benefits

We here at WinkWinkPlayPlay are excited to see an article on the net about us... They're a few reason for the excitement, the first of course being written about. It is always nice to get some attention for what you do and when it is positive there is even more reasons to celebrate... Second one is the content of the article which reflects what we have been going over in our earlier posts. ( the lifestyle and if you are interested in entering the lifestyle what you should understand before entering into it). The Swinglifestyle can be very rewarding and a lot of fun especially for those couples that are in the right spot. The communication and closeness that comes from having friends with benefits is unbelievable. The Love I feel for my wife now is so deep compared to the feeling we or I had after we got married. Swinging has truly brought us closer together. Anyway read the article for yourself.


http://www.adultlinkexchange.info/friends-with-benefits.html

Swinging – more normal than you might think.

Back in the 50’s being normal resembled Ozzie and Harriet or Leave it to Beaver, now a family like that would be considered deviant (not the norm), whereas the blended family, once deviant, is now the norm. The accepted norms of society have changed over the years. Some say swinging began back in ancient Greece or Rome others place its popularity in the 50’s with Military families. Regardless of its origins Swinging has been around for quite a long time and has been considered more of a deviant (not the norm) behavior in the past. Society has changed dramatically over the last 50 years and what used to be normal is now the abnormal. The Sexual revolution in the 60’s was just the beginning and as the narrow view of what is proper has changed we see that society has become more open minded.
We here at WinkWinkPlayPlay have joined ALNMA (The Adult Lifestyles National Members Association) as part of our commitment to the Swinglifestyle. Here is a little bit about ALNMA taken from their Website www.alnma.com.
ALNMA, is very unique in its structure, representing both the Lifestyles Business Industry and public Lifestyles communities.
By the establishment of ALNMA, the Adult Lifestyles National Members Association, a Lifestyles Industry Trade Association, setting industry standards through a membership base Trade Industry Association as a Industry leader exclusively for the Lifestyles.
The corner stone of ALNMA is the Lifestyles Business Members who share our mutual support of the Lifestyle communities and the Industry. Our partnership with our Members represents a global alliance of recognition and support. Bringing together Business Members from all Lifestyles interests. ALNMA is the first and only Trade Association representing all Lifestyles.
ALNMA's Network was created to establish greater Business Member recognition and focus on specific public Lifestyles interests geographically linking the Adult Lifestyles business community, thus bridging the public with industry recognition.
ALNMA has set a standards in the Lifestyles Industry by the establishment of guidelines and polices that upholds the very essence of ethical and professional business practices. Such standards are at the root of ALNMA's formation. By which, establishes a industry awareness, recognition and levels of trust where none were before. It is by these standards the Lifestyles Industry will better serve the public and commitment to excellence in supporting the lifestyles
The Public
* Serve as an available and trustworthy resource for educators, legislators, regulators, opinion-leaders that seek better to understand the Lifestyles, benefiting the Lifestyles Industry's role in society today and support of the Lifestyles. Supporting the Lifestyles, all Adult Lifestyles, in pursuit of better understanding and growth within the public Lifestyles Communities.
* We believe responsible law abiding adults should have an unbiased and friendly environment to exercise their adult preferences and choices without ridicule, persecution or disapproval.
* We feel this environment should also convey awareness about legitimate businesses and organizations that further enhance the Adult Lifestyles decisions that also provide a quality environment for anyone exploring and exercising their adult choices.
* Promote and encourage tolerance, acceptance and understanding in a society where moral boundaries judge those who willfully and rightfully choose a particular orientation, interest or Lifestyles preference.
* Through education and awareness, develop a greater understanding of the Lifestyles, through participation within the public lifestyles community, encouragement to engage in discussions, share views and opinions about the Lifestyles and the pursuit of enjoyment of the Lifestyles freely and willfully.
Supporting the Lifestyles and the Industry!
http://www.ALNMA.com

SwingFest 2009

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One Member's Testimonial

Like many things it started simply enough – find a female friend with benefits. After a nasty divorce I was not ready to settle into a regular live in situation. I need a little air, but I also needed to get laid regularly. They said it’s hard to find a good man in LA. Let me tell you it’s hard to find a real woman online. Site after site it was variations on a theme. Sign up with the free account and the mail starts pouring in. The old ego gets going, hope swings into action and the imagination starts running wild. Two, three, eight notices of mail a day – but all you can do is wink back. The first site got me with eight e-mails from potential matches. The second one got my money at around the twenty-five e-mail mark. Both sites were adult sites promising singles in my area ready for action. Based on the initial responses from both sites I was planning on buying stock in Trojan condoms. But as soon as I joined it was like I suddenly contracted leprosy or farted – I’m standing in the middle of an empty room. That was really annoying. And to make it worse no matter how many creative e-mails I sent out nothing was coming back. Some of the e-mails were really good – I put some thought into them, someone somewhere should have said something back.
Then it dawned on me – these are not real people. These are dummy ads except for the Nigerian in London who wanted me to send her computers and the two professional hookers. After this revelation, the scales really fell from my eyes when it came into focus that the initial flurry of e-mail from both sites had been from paid responders. That’s right – people who bait you into joining. It was a scheme, a sham, a con game designed to separate me from my money by using my penis as a crowbar. Now I’m pissed. I’d been mugged on the Internet. No physical damage just a dent in my self image – I was pissed at myself for being gullible. Vindication came in the form of site number three and my new perspective on how this game works. It took 93 e-mails before I joined, and I signed up just so I could ambush the responder assigned to me. At e-mail 122 a lady in my age group, professional, educated without a picture pops into my mail box. The line in her e-mail that got me was something about having to produce a copy of my divorce decree as part of the first meeting. I’ll not repeat exactly what I wrote but it was smartass – in fact that’s how she (he/it) addressed the reply “Dear Smartass”. Pay dirt! I was talking with a real person. It was a true five round flamer. The last word was mine – “Honey you don’t need paperwork – you need someone with a sense of humor and a prescription for Cialis.” It was true I guess (he/she/it) never wrote back. Five weeks, $119.85, and 241 e-mails to fake ads – I was not ready to do this again. A friend suggested I try a site he’d see advertised locally www.winkwinkplayplay.com. The logo is “Real…Local, and ready to Play”. That was refreshing, and after I singed up for my free account I got an one e-mail from the owners of the site assuring me that they screened everyone and there were not fake ads or paid responder. I don’t get as much mail, in fact it’s a fraction of what I got from the other sites, but it’s from real people and I have one lady who really seems to like me, she can’t spell, but that’s OK, at least she writes me and I know she’s real. Like they say “Real…local, and ready to play.” It really is a different kind of adult dating site – I like it, it’s a breath of fresh air. Give it a try. thomas90025
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The Rewards of the Swinglifestyle

Entering the lifestyle?
Trust and Understanding are vital in any swinging relationship. Communication is the main part of a successful swinging relationship along with a close loving relationship. You should be able to share your feelings with each other. Talk about why you want to enter the swinging lifestyle. Share your fantasies and desires with each other once you reach an equal understanding and you’ll be able to truly benefit from what the lifestyle has to offer. By sharing your experiences together you’ll both grow emotionally and sexually stronger in your relationship.
Approached the right way swinging can be very enjoyable.

Have a history together. A foundation you don’t have to be married but be comfortable with each other.
Be stable. This isn’t a fit for a broken relationship.
Be mindful of each other emotional needs.
Both should be comfortable with the idea of swinging.
Communicate. Always talk with each other.
Your relationship comes first. Swinging should not be place ahead of your partner.
This is about having fun. Play time with different people shouldn’t come at the expense of your partner’s feelings. Have fun, meet new people, attend clubs, play but don’t do anything you don’t want to do, or anything that will hurt your partner.

Without Trust, Understanding, and COMMUNICATION the full experience of Swinging can never be fully enjoyed.

How to deal with jealousy.
The effects on our relationship
General rules of swinging
Why enter the lifestyle?

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Helpful Guidelines when Swinging

General rules of swinging

The number One rule – No Means No… You, your Partner, or the people you are playing with all have this right. At anytime the word NO is used Stop… “No” or “No thank you” is the ultimate safety word and it is more than enough. This magic word will help avoid bad or hurt feelings.
Be Nice – Be polite and courteous to everyone whether you are interested in swinging with someone or not. Be Courteous – Treat others the way you want to be treated. Be understanding, kind, thoughtful. Everyone can be sensitive at times. Show respect to others– People’s comfort levels are different. Be mindful of your partner as well as everyone else. Everyone should be enjoying themselves if you notice things aren’t working the way things should be polite, stay calm, and be courteous - remember this should be fun. Everyone should be relaxed.

Don’t be Pushy – Remember the magic word “NO” everybody has the right to use this word. You will hear this word more than once in your journey so you need to learn to handle it. “NO” is not spelled d-i-s-m-e-m-b-e-r-m-e-n-t, it means someone is uncomfortable for some reason – don’t take it personally. Be courteous and politely say “OK. Thank you. Not a problem”. Show respect and common courtesy, accept the no for what it is and move on. No grabbing is a good rule. If you are interested in someone let them know in an inviting way.

This is for Fun– No need to take one for the team… This is about enjoying yourself and others. Do what you feel like doing. You never have to do something you don’t feel like doing… If you aren’t interested in someone or if you aren’t interested in doing something, then don’t. It is that simple.

How to deal with jealousy.
The effects on our relationship
General rules of swinging
Why enter the lifestyle?

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The effects on our relationship

The effects on our relationship
The swinging lifestyle is a great way to learn more about you and your partner’s sexual interests. Maybe explore the potential of bisexuality in an environment free of judgmental feelings, or the opportunity to experience multiple partners. Many couples find that swinging not only improves their commitment to each other but it also enhances their relationship on a level never reached before.





How to deal with jealousy.
The effects on our relationship
General rules of swinging
Why enter the lifestyle?

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Dealing with Jealouy

Jealousy
Jealousy can arise whether you are new to swinging or have been in the lifestyle for awhile. Don’t underestimate the power of jealousy, it often comes up when one person gets or receives more attention than the other in the relationship whether it’s at a party or in a more private setting feelings of insecurity can come up. No one should feel left out. A great way to avoid or prevent jealousy is having some simple rules like:

Only playing together. Same room play no separate rooms
Communicate between each other. Both people make the discussion to play
Have a safe word. A word that lets the other know they aren’t comfortable.
Listen to each other. If something comes up address it even if it means stopping any sexual activity happening.
Any agreements or rule you make Stick to them.
Be reassuring of the commitment and your love for each other.
Remember, swinging is for both to enjoy. If at any time jealousy becomes an issue for you and your partner, take time out… work it out together.



How to deal with jealousy.
The effects on our relationship
General rules of swinging
Why enter the lifestyle?

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about Swinging

Is Swinging for You.
There are a lot of married or dating couples who have a more casual view of sex and sexual relations. Many view it as recreational social play that can be done with someone other than their friend, girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife and find the swinging lifestyle is great way of improving their sex lives and relationship.
Regardless of race, religion, or social class swinging has become a popular choice for dating or married couples.
The reasons for entering the swinging lifestyle are varied. Many view or find that they learn more about themselves and their partner’s sexuality, learning new ways to give and take pleasure, plus many couples find that seeing their partner experiencing and enjoy sex to be very intoxicating and arousing. Some even join to relieve stress and tension from their daily lives.
Whether you want explore or expand your sexuality or sensuality, the swinging lifestyle can offer many benefits to couples or singles.

To truly benefit from the Swinger lifestyle there are some things you should (and we strongly recommend) you consider:

How to deal with jealousy.
The effects on our relationship
General rules of swinging
Why enter the lifestyle?

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What we are

We are an open-minded dating site for swingers and singles. Whether you are a couple, single male or female, or TS/TV/TG either looking to meet someone for casual relations or to meet a life partner we offer an uncluttered straight forward platform to meet new people. Whether you are straight, bi, or bi-curious you are welcome and will find a non-judgmental environment in which to search and communicate. Many other personal dating sites limit or restrict their memberships to certain types of individuals. We believe that there is room for everyone and have built a site we believe accommodates a variety of tastes and orientations. With that thought in mind we designed a place for those who don’t fit, or who don’t want to fit into those more narrow points of views. This is the place for the truly open-minded adults who are looking for NSA ( no strings attached sexual relations) or friends with benefits. We are not promising to find you a perfect match, just a little help in connecting with people like you.


What we Promise: Real, Local and ready to play.
What prompted the creation of this site was our own experience with other sites. There are some good sites out there, however quite a few are overloaded with banner advertising for prono sites, or cluttered with so much stuff it is difficult to figure out what is going on or how to navigate the site. Then there are the Fake profiles designed to hook you into subscribing. One thing you will not find on this site is fake ads – we didn’t like being deceived by them on other sites and we will not use them to deceive you. In other words we won’t bait you for your money. This site was started without preloaded profiles and dummy accounts - everyone on this site is a member, another real person just like you; remember we are swingers and have been in the lifestyle for a number of years. We’ll stay involved with you on our journey and promise to never take advantage of your desires to get to your wallet. We also promise not to overload your experience with banner links to other sites. Any email you receive will be from actual members, and if you think it’s not, let us know and we’ll fix the problem. We promise a clean easy to navigate, functioning site that is easy to read… no sensory overload. And as stated previously we will always maintain a personal involvement making this truly a site for members by members.