We were talking with our friends at Swingfest just a couple of days ago and the perception of swinging came up. How so many companies deny us listings or services just because we are swingers. Yet they service all sorts of Adult oriented businesses.
It still amazes me to be denied a service from a company on the basis of our content. This one company called us obscene and stated that they do not work with businesses that deal with our subject matter. Yet several of their clients sell adult videos which showcase all sorts of XXX stuff. So I questioned them on their decision they responded with “we do not service dating sites that promote the meeting for sex”. What a joke… Do they think people join these sites to find someone to play cards with? Let’s be real here lust and desire come first love is what follows. I am not trying to get on a soap box and preach the benefits of swinging.
We could call it Friends with benefits or no strings attached meetings and probably have them lining up to provide their services. Swinging by any other name is still the Swinglifestyle, wife swapping or whatever you want to call it. Sure it isn’t for everyone but the couples we know in the lifestyle will all say it has brought them closer together. They don’t cheat on each other on the contrary the level of communication is deeper; the level of intimacy is deeper. But none of that really matters, it’s the word swinger that gets them. Who know what mental image they get a roman orgy, a hippie love fest or some other misconception that blocks them. Just call it something other than it is… It reminds me of something George Carlin said about the softening of words to be political correct, “back in WWII they called it Shell Shock, now it is post traumatic stress syndrome”. More words to say the same thing…
To be honest just trying to write about this bothers me. I would much rather share our experiences in the lifestyle than try to figure out or complain about those who don’t even what to take the time to understand. We aren’t ones to force our beliefs or actions on another, nor try to justify them. If you want to know about the lifestyle we will tell you.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Monday, January 4, 2010
I don’t want you. I’ve already had you.
The end of one year the beginning of a new year it’s a celebration that everyone seems to enjoy. Whether we are remembering the past or looking forward to a hope filled future. We’re no different we have enjoyed ourselves over the years. Our experiences in the Swinglifestyle have always seemed more enjoyable on this night. It seems to be a universal feeling of joy, rebirth if you will combine that with the orgasmic pleasure that a wife swapping experience can bring and it borders on a spiritual experience. So yeah, we go out every New Years Eve over the years we had tried several types of parties and meet all sorts of people.
We went out to a club takeover no real plans made to meet up with anybody more of a seat of our pants kind of thing. Which can but a damper on a night? If you have been to any of these things you know that it can be kind of a cliquish thing. I guess it is human nature for people to hang out with the familiar than trying something new. Now that one line will make you go what as this tell of our night goes on. Anyway, at these things you try and meet new people and find some couple that you can hit it off with. If you are like us this can be very interesting, meaning my wife is very social and I border on the socially handicapped. So she usually takes the lead in meeting new people. So as the night went on we talked with a few different couples moving through to find one that we connected with. With midnight approaching we thing we found one. Personalities seem to fit the right mix of humor and sarcasm. We talk as much as you can at these things with the music drowning out almost everything you say, till you are yelling in each other’s ears. We share a few drinks, take some time out on the dance floor, move back to the booth to flirt and talk with each other. That is when the husband makes the comment to his wife “I don’t want you, I’ve already had you. I want her.” Instantly I not only see the red in his wife’s eyes but mine as well. I sitting there think you F**king bone head. Sure you might be making a joke but it wasn’t received that way.
Now over the years I have said some truly stupid things that I still hear about till this day. However one of the things I would never say is that I didn’t want my wife. I might tell her “she’s hot”, “Boy, don’t they look like fun”, and I would even say “ I am lusting after her”. Even though I say stuff like this my wife comes first. I have both love and lust for my wife. My lust for someone else doesn’t replace or override my love for my wife. This is why we can experience the benefits of the Swinglifestyle. Our love and respect for each other comes first so when we come across someone that doesn’t treat their spouse with the same respect it is an instant turn off. Needless to say the hunt for another new year’s couple continued. We ended up finding a really cool couple and let’s just say the New Year looks like it going to be great.
We went out to a club takeover no real plans made to meet up with anybody more of a seat of our pants kind of thing. Which can but a damper on a night? If you have been to any of these things you know that it can be kind of a cliquish thing. I guess it is human nature for people to hang out with the familiar than trying something new. Now that one line will make you go what as this tell of our night goes on. Anyway, at these things you try and meet new people and find some couple that you can hit it off with. If you are like us this can be very interesting, meaning my wife is very social and I border on the socially handicapped. So she usually takes the lead in meeting new people. So as the night went on we talked with a few different couples moving through to find one that we connected with. With midnight approaching we thing we found one. Personalities seem to fit the right mix of humor and sarcasm. We talk as much as you can at these things with the music drowning out almost everything you say, till you are yelling in each other’s ears. We share a few drinks, take some time out on the dance floor, move back to the booth to flirt and talk with each other. That is when the husband makes the comment to his wife “I don’t want you, I’ve already had you. I want her.” Instantly I not only see the red in his wife’s eyes but mine as well. I sitting there think you F**king bone head. Sure you might be making a joke but it wasn’t received that way.
Now over the years I have said some truly stupid things that I still hear about till this day. However one of the things I would never say is that I didn’t want my wife. I might tell her “she’s hot”, “Boy, don’t they look like fun”, and I would even say “ I am lusting after her”. Even though I say stuff like this my wife comes first. I have both love and lust for my wife. My lust for someone else doesn’t replace or override my love for my wife. This is why we can experience the benefits of the Swinglifestyle. Our love and respect for each other comes first so when we come across someone that doesn’t treat their spouse with the same respect it is an instant turn off. Needless to say the hunt for another new year’s couple continued. We ended up finding a really cool couple and let’s just say the New Year looks like it going to be great.
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