Entertaining at Home?

Here is a question that seems to come up a lot. Should we entertain at our Home?
This is truly a personal decision and there are a lot of factors you should take into consideration.
1. Do you have kids at Home?
Regarding kids: This can be a touchy subject some couples have no problem inviting others over to play with their kids at home while others would never dream of it. If you are comfortable with the idea of inviting play mates over with your kids at home make sure the people you are inviting are comfortable with it too. Or play when the kids are away i.e. school, sleepovers, grandparents or whatever. The majority of people we know like to keep their playtime away from their kids even though this can limit the amount of playtime due to babysitter issues they would rather play less than run the risk of having their child or their play mates’ children walking in on some fun activities.
2. Do you know the people you are inviting into your home?
Again this is a personal comfort level thing. Some people have no problem inviting others into their home after a bit of conversation online. However personally we are a more cautious and prefer to have the first face to face meeting in a public place. (Nightclub, bar, swing event, hell even Denny’s will do) this is something we have just made a rule if we haven’t met in person you aren’t coming into our home. By having a safe location to meet we can see how all of us feel and if the comfort level is there. With that being said we usually don’t invite them into our home right away if we feel like playing we’ll get a room or something. We find that this removes all the pressure that one could feel over having someone (s) in your home that you don’t want to play with but you invited them over and now they are sitting on your couch going nudge nudge wink wink and your left going aaahhh fuck.
3. Is it for a party or a more personal setting?
COMFORT LEVEL HELLO: A party is a sure way to measure your comfort level… This could sound like a lot of fun and end up being more than you bargained for… We strongly recommend that you attend a couple of house parties before entertaining the idea of throwing one yourselves. Don’t get us wrong we are not putting down house parties they can be a blast, but if you have never been to a few of them you could be in for a wild ride… no we aren’t saying it is like something out of animal house were you house will be completely trashed most people are very respectful of the home they are in. You could have a party where nothing happens or a party where you are going is there a surface in my house that hasn’t seen a butt cheek… AS FOR MORE PERSONAL SETTINGS: these have been some of the best experiences we have had in the lifestyle. Just a friend or two, three, four over for some drinks and a dip in the Jacuzzi… I will leave it at that before the memories over take me.
4. If it is a Party what about your neighbors?
If you are considering throwing a house party you probably want to take a second and think about your neighbors… Are they close? Are they nosy? Will they come over? Will they call the police? These are just a couple of thoughts that you should have beforehand that might save you from explaining those people having sex on your living room floor… A few minutes telling your neighbors that you are having a private party might save you headache in the future. Let them know there might be a lot of cars parked out front, that you will try and keep the noise down. I guess you really have to figure out if your home and/or neighborhood is a place to have a party. Again attend a few house parties first get a feel on how it is done. See what works best, what you liked what you didn’t like. Who knows you could end up being the hottest new meeting place in your area…
Whether you are curious about wife swapping or have been in the Swinglifestyle for awhile the one thing that we have found is that good communication and maintaining our comfort level is a must in order to truly enjoy this lifestyle. Playing at your home might not be for you or it might be the most comfortable place to play. Experiment try new things but talk to each other about them you might find that some things aren’t for you while others are a perfect fit.