A couple of questions

Q: We are new to the Swinglifestyle and were thinking about going to a club. What type of club should we go to being new to the swing lifestyle?

A: Well there are a few different types of clubs:
1. Off premise club meaning you go drink (if you do), dance, and meet others and if you hit it off you go somewhere else to take it further.
2. On premise club meaning there are rooms available to play right there.
This is a very simple explanation of clubs. Some do nightclub takeovers then have another location that attendees can go to afterward, while others takeover a large house or mansion, and some are at private homes. The question is what your comfort level is. If you are just starting out in the Swinglifestyle you should talk to each other about full or soft swing and where is your comfort level. Communication is the key to having a rewarding experience in the Swinglifestyle. Personally my wife and I prefer the off-site nightclub takeovers where we can meet people and if we meet a couple or individual we feel comfortable with we can go elsewhere and play privately with them. While we know quite a few that prefer the group setting to the club setting, this is all a matter of personal preference. If you are just starting out we recommend having some guidelines set up between you and your partner - general rules per say. One of the things we have is a key word… If we are talking with another couple or individual and one of us isn’t interested or feels uncomfortable we use that key word and that way the other one knows we should move on. It is a safe word that keeps uncomfortable feelings or issues from entering the experience.



Q: We have noticed that there are more Single Males in the lifestyle than single females we are new and really want to have a single female join us but have also thought about having another guy join us. What do you think about playing with singles Males?

A: Ah yes the infamous single males and the Golden Unicorn (the Single Bi Female ) delimma. Most couples who have entered into this lifestyle started out wanting that hard to find single bi female. As for single males there is an overwhelming number in the Swinglifestyle. Playing with single males can be fun; if you are willing to go through the large number of emails you’ll receive to find one that you are comfortable with. Over the years we have found that finding a good single male to play with is just as difficult as finding a single bi female. Most want to live out some prono fantasy and have very little experience in the lifestyle. If and when we play with a single male they have to meet certain criteria, some prior experience, polite, respectful of our marriage, not in it for just their own personal gratification, of course there ar e more personal preferences but those are more of an attraction nature. It is the major ones that we chose to list here. Here is an idea for you if you are thinking about having another male join you but you really wanted another female why not try meeting with another couple? This could be a good way of exploring what you are interested in a safe way because another couple is usually concerned or mindful of not only their marriage but yours as well. The one thing we can’t stress enough is communication between you and your spouse; it is the best way of keeping jealousy issues to a minimum.