Vanilla Friends

We had a situation that came up the other day and no it is not the first time. The question is should you reveal your identity as a swinger to your vanilla friends (vanilla friends means a friend that is not in the Swinglifestyle). Let me start with yesterday; I was talking with an old friend that I have known for 10 plus years and kind of got cornered on the Website. We knew that this would happen even planned on what we would say. No we are not ashamed of our lifestyle choice but we are careful as to who we tell. None the less I was faced with the situation of tell or make up some lie. Personally I feel honesty is the best policy and since I have known this person for over 10 years I figured they wouldn’t be that surprised by it. However like we mentioned earlier this is not the first time this has come up… In the past when we have shared this we with other vanilla friends we have basically gotten three responses
1. You’re WHAT… followed by a polite oh that’s cool and then the friendship fades away to the point of no contact.
2. REALLY… Followed with we/I have always been curious about that (if this is a male he typically sees if he can fuck my wife, Females try this too however we have found that this usually doesn’t work out well).
3. Huh… I can see that followed by acceptance (this is very rare… Usually people are curious and number two comes into play).
Now the question becomes what will yesterday’s conversation turn into? Time will tell… Is the Swinglifestyle like living a secret life…? Not really we have are vanilla friends and we have our Swinger friends we tend to have a closer more open relationship with our Swinger friends and no not because of sex it is because they are less judgmental and more open-minded so we feel less restricted in our conversations. The choice of revealing your lifestyle to your non lifestyle friends is a very personal one and definitely something that shouldn’t be done in passing. But it is just that a personal choice one that you’ll have to make for yourself. We don’t think anyone can tell you what to do in this area only share their own personal experience and let you make that choice based on your knowledge of the friend / friends in question.