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Saturday, March 21, 2009
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Great Q&A on a topic for most men
We came across this Q&A and had to share it... We have come across many couples and/or men who have thoughts about this and we felt the way this is addressed should answer many unasked questions...
Adult Swinging - Fear of inadequacy
Expert: Analisa - 3/17/2009
Question
My wife and I of 28 years are incredibly happy and secure. She's my best friend, business partner, mother of my child, and many other roles. She's only had two other sex partners before we were married, and one of those was abusive. That, coupled with low testosterone, kept her libido in idle for several years. We have been working on that over the past couple of years and found a doctor who has helped her immensely. If fact, she can get really hot now, and is still incredibly beautiful.
We've been fantasizing about the hot wife lifestyle for some time. She's an exhibitionist and I'm a voyeur, so it fits pretty well. We'd both like to find some men for her to be with while I watch, take pics, etc, and have been cautiously moving down that road. We've joined a swap site, posted some pics, and have been looking for men and/or couples that might fit. She has no desire to see me with another woman, and that's okay with me.
We're trying to check ourselves at every step, keeping communication open and making sure this is right (how do you ever know until you jump?). One of my concerns is that I will feel inadequate. While I've helped bring her along (she never had an orgasm until we met), I'm of average size and am one of the 30% of males who has a fairly quick trigger. Part of our fantasy these days is watching videos of men who go long and hard and using a thick 8" dong that fills her up. Don't get me wrong - we have great sex in a variety of ways, and there are a couple of things I do that put her on the ceiling. I'm just not sure how I'll feel, knowing these men can give her what I cannot. Of course, that's partly why we're doing this, so she can experience what she's never felt before, and I can get my own private porn show. So, I'm kind of conflicted. I’m also not sure if my lack of desire to join in a full swap has something to do with my fear of pleasing another woman.
I realize you can't tell me how I'll feel, but do you have any advice for guys like me? Have you known other men in the lifestyle with PE and how they handle things like this, or other being women for that matter?
Thanks
Answer
Todd,
First let me congratulate you on putting your wife first in this process, it is really the only way that this is successful.
Second let me tell you from a woman's perspective you must be doing something right if you were able to be the first one to get her off. So you may be proving the point of "It's not the size of the ship but, the motion of the ocean" or "It's not the length of the wand but the magician who wields it" sayings.
there's more read it here: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/3/Fear-inadequacy.htm
Adult Swinging - Fear of inadequacy
Expert: Analisa - 3/17/2009
Question
My wife and I of 28 years are incredibly happy and secure. She's my best friend, business partner, mother of my child, and many other roles. She's only had two other sex partners before we were married, and one of those was abusive. That, coupled with low testosterone, kept her libido in idle for several years. We have been working on that over the past couple of years and found a doctor who has helped her immensely. If fact, she can get really hot now, and is still incredibly beautiful.
We've been fantasizing about the hot wife lifestyle for some time. She's an exhibitionist and I'm a voyeur, so it fits pretty well. We'd both like to find some men for her to be with while I watch, take pics, etc, and have been cautiously moving down that road. We've joined a swap site, posted some pics, and have been looking for men and/or couples that might fit. She has no desire to see me with another woman, and that's okay with me.
We're trying to check ourselves at every step, keeping communication open and making sure this is right (how do you ever know until you jump?). One of my concerns is that I will feel inadequate. While I've helped bring her along (she never had an orgasm until we met), I'm of average size and am one of the 30% of males who has a fairly quick trigger. Part of our fantasy these days is watching videos of men who go long and hard and using a thick 8" dong that fills her up. Don't get me wrong - we have great sex in a variety of ways, and there are a couple of things I do that put her on the ceiling. I'm just not sure how I'll feel, knowing these men can give her what I cannot. Of course, that's partly why we're doing this, so she can experience what she's never felt before, and I can get my own private porn show. So, I'm kind of conflicted. I’m also not sure if my lack of desire to join in a full swap has something to do with my fear of pleasing another woman.
I realize you can't tell me how I'll feel, but do you have any advice for guys like me? Have you known other men in the lifestyle with PE and how they handle things like this, or other being women for that matter?
Thanks
Answer
Todd,
First let me congratulate you on putting your wife first in this process, it is really the only way that this is successful.
Second let me tell you from a woman's perspective you must be doing something right if you were able to be the first one to get her off. So you may be proving the point of "It's not the size of the ship but, the motion of the ocean" or "It's not the length of the wand but the magician who wields it" sayings.
there's more read it here: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/3/Fear-inadequacy.htm
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Vanilla friend part 2
So a few posts ago we talked about revealing our lifestyle choice to a friend of ours that isn’t in the Swinglifestyle and has no experience wife swapping. The summary of that posting was the possible outcome of revealing such a thing to vanilla friends. Here is a bit of what we wrote on past experience and responses we have gotten from those experiences:
In the past when we have shared this we with other vanilla friends we have basically gotten three responses
1. You’re WHAT… followed by a polite oh that’s cool and then the friendship fades away to the point of no contact.
2. REALLY… Followed with we/I have always been curious about that (if this is a male he typically sees if he can fuck my wife, Females try this too however we have found that this usually doesn’t work out well).
3. Huh… I can see that followed by acceptance (this is very rare… Usually people are curious and number two comes into play).
Now the friend that we revealed ourselves to has been a friend of ours for over ten years and we thought that through everything this friend would understand… Well it just goes to show you; you can never predict human behavior or response to a situation… His first response was along the lines of number 3. Acceptance however as we stated in that posting this response is very rare… Most people aren’t this open and accepting usually their own experience or believe system comes into play and interferes with open-minded acceptance of something different. Look we are saying people are narrow minded or judgmental. What we are saying is that fear is usually the first reaction to something new or different. Anyway the response he seems to have had is number 1. Friendship fades to the point of no contact…
Now this posting could be premature and he is still trying to digest the whole thing and come to his own acceptance of it. This is us just trying to be the total optimist and give an old friend the benefit of the doubt.
So will we stop living the Swinglifestyle or stop being honest with our vanilla friends when confronted with the truth…? The answer is a Resounding NO… We have no shame in what we choose to do or the way we live our life. Being a Swinger, Wife Swapping, Friends with Benefits no matter what you call it has bought me and my wife closer as a couple than we could have ever imaged. We make no apologies for our lifestyle.
In the past when we have shared this we with other vanilla friends we have basically gotten three responses
1. You’re WHAT… followed by a polite oh that’s cool and then the friendship fades away to the point of no contact.
2. REALLY… Followed with we/I have always been curious about that (if this is a male he typically sees if he can fuck my wife, Females try this too however we have found that this usually doesn’t work out well).
3. Huh… I can see that followed by acceptance (this is very rare… Usually people are curious and number two comes into play).
Now the friend that we revealed ourselves to has been a friend of ours for over ten years and we thought that through everything this friend would understand… Well it just goes to show you; you can never predict human behavior or response to a situation… His first response was along the lines of number 3. Acceptance however as we stated in that posting this response is very rare… Most people aren’t this open and accepting usually their own experience or believe system comes into play and interferes with open-minded acceptance of something different. Look we are saying people are narrow minded or judgmental. What we are saying is that fear is usually the first reaction to something new or different. Anyway the response he seems to have had is number 1. Friendship fades to the point of no contact…
Now this posting could be premature and he is still trying to digest the whole thing and come to his own acceptance of it. This is us just trying to be the total optimist and give an old friend the benefit of the doubt.
So will we stop living the Swinglifestyle or stop being honest with our vanilla friends when confronted with the truth…? The answer is a Resounding NO… We have no shame in what we choose to do or the way we live our life. Being a Swinger, Wife Swapping, Friends with Benefits no matter what you call it has bought me and my wife closer as a couple than we could have ever imaged. We make no apologies for our lifestyle.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
One from one of our follower's great article
34 Kinds of sex, and still counting
Posted By jss on February 24, 2009
I was thinking this morning about people who have idealized monogamous sex within a loving and committed relationship. You know the ones, who have good marriages or are otherwise partnered with their best friends and soulmates.
I’m thrilled for all of them, truly; even the ones who look down on the rest of us or think we’re all pretty much damned to crackle in Hellfire and already smell vaguely of sulphur. Even though the word “soulmate” makes my skin crawl a little. There are more of us than there are of them, obviously, and I do not feel compelled to cite statistics right now.
Anyway, it occurred to me that idealizing this kind of relationship implies, further, idealizing a particular kind of sex … and that is “I really love you” sex, including the “I still think you’re the hottest thing on the planet” foreplay. There is a body of literature (I use the word loosely) about hot monogamy. (Serial monogamy represents a series of failures of hot monogamy, I suppose.) Religious conservatives love to postulate that Christians have better sex than heathens, or should, anyway, since they’re having sex that is actually blessed by divine and almighty power …
But anyway, for fun, I’ve made a list of 20 25 34 other kinds of sex that people have, or at least that I’ve had. It took me five minutes to make the list. Five. Minutes. If you’ve had all these kinds of sex with ONE partner … well, let me know. You win something or the other.
Feel free to add your own worthy variations in the comments … if there’s enough responses, I’ll update the list with attribution and links.
to read the rest and see the list click here: http://www.intotemptation.net/2009/02/24/34-kinds-of-sex/#more-316
Posted By jss on February 24, 2009
I was thinking this morning about people who have idealized monogamous sex within a loving and committed relationship. You know the ones, who have good marriages or are otherwise partnered with their best friends and soulmates.
I’m thrilled for all of them, truly; even the ones who look down on the rest of us or think we’re all pretty much damned to crackle in Hellfire and already smell vaguely of sulphur. Even though the word “soulmate” makes my skin crawl a little. There are more of us than there are of them, obviously, and I do not feel compelled to cite statistics right now.
Anyway, it occurred to me that idealizing this kind of relationship implies, further, idealizing a particular kind of sex … and that is “I really love you” sex, including the “I still think you’re the hottest thing on the planet” foreplay. There is a body of literature (I use the word loosely) about hot monogamy. (Serial monogamy represents a series of failures of hot monogamy, I suppose.) Religious conservatives love to postulate that Christians have better sex than heathens, or should, anyway, since they’re having sex that is actually blessed by divine and almighty power …
But anyway, for fun, I’ve made a list of 20 25 34 other kinds of sex that people have, or at least that I’ve had. It took me five minutes to make the list. Five. Minutes. If you’ve had all these kinds of sex with ONE partner … well, let me know. You win something or the other.
Feel free to add your own worthy variations in the comments … if there’s enough responses, I’ll update the list with attribution and links.
to read the rest and see the list click here: http://www.intotemptation.net/2009/02/24/34-kinds-of-sex/#more-316
Monday, March 16, 2009
A nice Article about us
Explore The Swinger Lifestyle
Posted: Mar 10th, 2009
It's great to have people who love and care for you, making great longtime/lasting friends will create fun times and a long happy future. Finding or meeting these people can sometimes be hard, however, Winkwinkplayplay.com has found a solution.
Create an account, upload a photo, add a brief bio, and you will instantly be able to interact with other real singles and couples. All profiles you choose to visit have user-friendly details which allow you to express yourself about what your interests are while others are doing the exact same.
Find your perfect match today whether you want to share this person with another, your spouse or keep them for yourself. Local profiles include in depth information about the individuals self image, appearance by photo, and other detailed information is available when searching for a new exciting friend. Each profile is a real person, no fake ads to pornography sites, and you can browse hundreds of peoples profiles located in you are area.
The term ‘friends with benefits' is often thrown around, but what does the definition term describe it as: friends with benefits is being attracted or intimate with another person, or more without having to maintain years of relationship. It is also described as singles or couples who obtain the understanding with their partner to interact with other couples or individuals without the other partner concern. Winkwinkplayplay.com offers local singles, couples and swingers in your area. Just search by zip code and begin to let the future communication start to happen.
Check out the resst here : http://www.articlesbase.com/art-and-entertainment-articles/explore-the-swinger-lifestyle-810224.html
Posted: Mar 10th, 2009
It's great to have people who love and care for you, making great longtime/lasting friends will create fun times and a long happy future. Finding or meeting these people can sometimes be hard, however, Winkwinkplayplay.com has found a solution.
Create an account, upload a photo, add a brief bio, and you will instantly be able to interact with other real singles and couples. All profiles you choose to visit have user-friendly details which allow you to express yourself about what your interests are while others are doing the exact same.
Find your perfect match today whether you want to share this person with another, your spouse or keep them for yourself. Local profiles include in depth information about the individuals self image, appearance by photo, and other detailed information is available when searching for a new exciting friend. Each profile is a real person, no fake ads to pornography sites, and you can browse hundreds of peoples profiles located in you are area.
The term ‘friends with benefits' is often thrown around, but what does the definition term describe it as: friends with benefits is being attracted or intimate with another person, or more without having to maintain years of relationship. It is also described as singles or couples who obtain the understanding with their partner to interact with other couples or individuals without the other partner concern. Winkwinkplayplay.com offers local singles, couples and swingers in your area. Just search by zip code and begin to let the future communication start to happen.
Check out the resst here : http://www.articlesbase.com/art-and-entertainment-articles/explore-the-swinger-lifestyle-810224.html
Sunday, March 15, 2009
A Q&A we came across on boundaries
This Q&A is about a couple wanting to enter the swinglifestyle and are unsure. We stress the need for communication and rule / boundaries which they address so we thought we would share it with you.
Adult Swinging - Begginning swinging and yet worried
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Expert: Leesa - 1/27/2009
Question
Context: Hi, my partner and I have been together 5 years now. I have a
toddler and he 3 kids from prior marriage. We are long term couple. Love and
care for each other very much. I am bisexual, been in lesbian relationships 10
yrs before meeting partner. I am happy feeling bisexual. But have not
indulged my needs. He is supportive of my sexuality. I have kissed a friend of
friend F a couple of time out dancing but not sex with another girl. This is
what I am seeking. In past I have had 3 threesomes. FFM, FFM and FFF. None
were that satisfying- the fantasy much better. I have explored abit and my
partner never has. He is leading the quest to want to swing. We went to a
swingers once when I was 8 mth pregnant- my hormones were not out there
to go for it. I went cause I supported his need to explore. Both of us never
had done exploring or sex with many people in our younger yrs, more me
than him. Now he wants to really try out couple swinging. I fantasies about
this much. Yet I do not have as much of a desire for this. I am in need of FF
intimacy, may lead to some play, occassionally. He not want to have full on
sex with another women on his own. He thinks it unfair if I want to have FF
for my bi needs. I know its hard for a straight guy to accept his girlfriend
want some FF satisfaction. He has low sex drive and not the creative type
sexually. I have high drive and am always initiating creativity and fun. He
reason for swinging is bored, want fun. I should be bored I don`t get it much
from him. We have discussed- he would like more intimacy with me then
penetration sex- fair enough. So my issue is. Yes, I am happy to swing with
another couple- but I worry boundaries may get blurry and I don`t want this
to ruin our relationship. He thinks by swinging I will get more sex as it will
increase his sex drive- really, is that a gurantee. He has not bi interest
himself. As much as I love guys getting it on. I don`t really care much to
swing, I guess I just want FF play sometimes. He does not want to miss out on
all the fun and sees couple swinging a safe option. I don`t want another guy
to penetrate me with penis, he does not want to penetrate another girl with
penis and I could not stand seeing him pash another girl- I know I would
struggle to cope with that. So is swinging for us?
Answer
Hi there thanks for your question.
Swinging: is it for you.
Yes: Is my answer, you dont have to have sex with others to swing.
Read the rest here :http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/1/Begginning-swinging-worried.htm
Adult Swinging - Begginning swinging and yet worried
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Expert: Leesa - 1/27/2009
Question
Context: Hi, my partner and I have been together 5 years now. I have a
toddler and he 3 kids from prior marriage. We are long term couple. Love and
care for each other very much. I am bisexual, been in lesbian relationships 10
yrs before meeting partner. I am happy feeling bisexual. But have not
indulged my needs. He is supportive of my sexuality. I have kissed a friend of
friend F a couple of time out dancing but not sex with another girl. This is
what I am seeking. In past I have had 3 threesomes. FFM, FFM and FFF. None
were that satisfying- the fantasy much better. I have explored abit and my
partner never has. He is leading the quest to want to swing. We went to a
swingers once when I was 8 mth pregnant- my hormones were not out there
to go for it. I went cause I supported his need to explore. Both of us never
had done exploring or sex with many people in our younger yrs, more me
than him. Now he wants to really try out couple swinging. I fantasies about
this much. Yet I do not have as much of a desire for this. I am in need of FF
intimacy, may lead to some play, occassionally. He not want to have full on
sex with another women on his own. He thinks it unfair if I want to have FF
for my bi needs. I know its hard for a straight guy to accept his girlfriend
want some FF satisfaction. He has low sex drive and not the creative type
sexually. I have high drive and am always initiating creativity and fun. He
reason for swinging is bored, want fun. I should be bored I don`t get it much
from him. We have discussed- he would like more intimacy with me then
penetration sex- fair enough. So my issue is. Yes, I am happy to swing with
another couple- but I worry boundaries may get blurry and I don`t want this
to ruin our relationship. He thinks by swinging I will get more sex as it will
increase his sex drive- really, is that a gurantee. He has not bi interest
himself. As much as I love guys getting it on. I don`t really care much to
swing, I guess I just want FF play sometimes. He does not want to miss out on
all the fun and sees couple swinging a safe option. I don`t want another guy
to penetrate me with penis, he does not want to penetrate another girl with
penis and I could not stand seeing him pash another girl- I know I would
struggle to cope with that. So is swinging for us?
Answer
Hi there thanks for your question.
Swinging: is it for you.
Yes: Is my answer, you dont have to have sex with others to swing.
Read the rest here :http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/1/Begginning-swinging-worried.htm
Friday, March 13, 2009
Here is a great Q & A we came across
Adult Swinging - Couple Considering Swinging
Expert: Leesa - 2/25/2009
Question
Dear Leesa,
Hello, and thank you for taking my question. I will try my best not to ramble and give you enough facts to provide you with an idea of what is going on in my marriage. A few months back I noticed my wife seemingly frustrated at home, and acting like she was refraining from telling me something. So, I sat her down, and re-assured her that I loved her, and that I would support her no matter what she had to tell me. She became angry at first, and shut me off for a couple of days, but once she spoke with me again she began opening up to me telling me that she is feeling the desire to explore an open relationship and was worried that this would hurt me. It took me by suprise, but it did not hurt me. I was glad she told me, and I agreed that it might be something worth considering.
Since that time, she has become a completely different person in a very good way. She is very open with me, honest, and tells me everything. The fights we used to have have diminished greatly because there is no longer an elephant in the room that no one is talking about. Our relationship is better in every way. She knows that I love her unconditionally and will never leave her and that she can be completely honest with me without judgement and persecution that all too often is unnecessary.
I tell you all of this on the premise that hopefully now you will understand my complete question. My wife is at a point to where she is willing to begin the exploration of the swinging lifestyle. However, it comes with reservations, mainly unease of the unknown. Her nor I know exactly what this experience will be like, or what the kind of people in the swinging lifestyle are like. We want to meet genuinely good people who enjoy friendships first, and fun second. All my wife has to compare this to is the typical bar crowd which have absolutely no resemblence to this as near as I can tell.
The first question is should we enter into this lifestyle given the openness we have had with eachother to experiment? Secondly, it would be how do we even go about finding the right people and places? And third it is that my wife is in no way bisexual (nor am I). She would not mind kissing a girl and doing certain sensual things, but the idea of going all the way with one is not something she has any desire to try. She is much more inclined to participate in a situation where couples swap and enjoy eachother. And I respect this. The bottom line is she is my wife foremost, and if we cannot enjoy this for the betterment of our relationship there is no point in doing it.
Really what I need is some good solid advice from someone who knows where we are at and what we are going through. And hopefully by my asking this question, I can gain great insight from you with regard as to how to slowly, correctly, and honestly go into this with as few bumps in the road as possible.
Thank you very much for reading this, and I wish you a blessed day.
Answer
Hi Juan
Thanks for allowing me to help you with your questions.
After reading your letter i am thinking that your wife is one very lucky lady.
It seems you both have the communication necessary to be able to explore the lifestyle in a wonderful and connected way together.
Now the answer to your question:
Swinging is about YOU both the couple, never about one or the other.
It is about exploring desires and fantasies with eachother and not about one person wanting to explore alone. So you seem to have that all sorted.
This is what we tell our patrons on a tour and on our site so i feel it is necessary to share this with you.
You are starting a journey of fullfilment, at anytime you feel that journey is in jeopardy of failing and you are not communicating anymore STOP. Never is it about the other couple or single, you never have to explain to anyone why you say NO or Stop even if it is in the middle of play. If either or both of you have any concerns, or get a "niggle" in the tummy it is simply not right..so STOP and leave together.
Having sex with others should never be so important to either or both of you that you "ignore" your own partner whilst playing. Of course unless you do seperate room swapping, which is very rare these days.
There have been occassions where my hubby is having sex with the other guys wife with a nice hardone..if you know what i mean, and i am getting the soft end of the deal. When this happens, my hubby would stop and come to me, and say to the other guy, sorry mate it is not all about your misses, but about mine too, so you go to your wife and let me look after mine.lol
You see it is simply not that important. You must also remember that there is a big difference in Having sex and Making love.
We simply Fuck others, but make love with eachother.
No conncections at all to the other people, or person, they are simply a tool in our journey on our own desires.
Can i suggest clubs are the best place to go to seek this fun.
So your research, make sure they are clean and not overwhelmed with single guys.
Sometimes going to someones house is a little off putting , cause you feel you cannot escape if you want to, where as in a club, you can simply move on to the next couple and chat etc.
Read the rest here: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/2/Couple-Considering-Swinging.htm
Expert: Leesa - 2/25/2009
Question
Dear Leesa,
Hello, and thank you for taking my question. I will try my best not to ramble and give you enough facts to provide you with an idea of what is going on in my marriage. A few months back I noticed my wife seemingly frustrated at home, and acting like she was refraining from telling me something. So, I sat her down, and re-assured her that I loved her, and that I would support her no matter what she had to tell me. She became angry at first, and shut me off for a couple of days, but once she spoke with me again she began opening up to me telling me that she is feeling the desire to explore an open relationship and was worried that this would hurt me. It took me by suprise, but it did not hurt me. I was glad she told me, and I agreed that it might be something worth considering.
Since that time, she has become a completely different person in a very good way. She is very open with me, honest, and tells me everything. The fights we used to have have diminished greatly because there is no longer an elephant in the room that no one is talking about. Our relationship is better in every way. She knows that I love her unconditionally and will never leave her and that she can be completely honest with me without judgement and persecution that all too often is unnecessary.
I tell you all of this on the premise that hopefully now you will understand my complete question. My wife is at a point to where she is willing to begin the exploration of the swinging lifestyle. However, it comes with reservations, mainly unease of the unknown. Her nor I know exactly what this experience will be like, or what the kind of people in the swinging lifestyle are like. We want to meet genuinely good people who enjoy friendships first, and fun second. All my wife has to compare this to is the typical bar crowd which have absolutely no resemblence to this as near as I can tell.
The first question is should we enter into this lifestyle given the openness we have had with eachother to experiment? Secondly, it would be how do we even go about finding the right people and places? And third it is that my wife is in no way bisexual (nor am I). She would not mind kissing a girl and doing certain sensual things, but the idea of going all the way with one is not something she has any desire to try. She is much more inclined to participate in a situation where couples swap and enjoy eachother. And I respect this. The bottom line is she is my wife foremost, and if we cannot enjoy this for the betterment of our relationship there is no point in doing it.
Really what I need is some good solid advice from someone who knows where we are at and what we are going through. And hopefully by my asking this question, I can gain great insight from you with regard as to how to slowly, correctly, and honestly go into this with as few bumps in the road as possible.
Thank you very much for reading this, and I wish you a blessed day.
Answer
Hi Juan
Thanks for allowing me to help you with your questions.
After reading your letter i am thinking that your wife is one very lucky lady.
It seems you both have the communication necessary to be able to explore the lifestyle in a wonderful and connected way together.
Now the answer to your question:
Swinging is about YOU both the couple, never about one or the other.
It is about exploring desires and fantasies with eachother and not about one person wanting to explore alone. So you seem to have that all sorted.
This is what we tell our patrons on a tour and on our site so i feel it is necessary to share this with you.
You are starting a journey of fullfilment, at anytime you feel that journey is in jeopardy of failing and you are not communicating anymore STOP. Never is it about the other couple or single, you never have to explain to anyone why you say NO or Stop even if it is in the middle of play. If either or both of you have any concerns, or get a "niggle" in the tummy it is simply not right..so STOP and leave together.
Having sex with others should never be so important to either or both of you that you "ignore" your own partner whilst playing. Of course unless you do seperate room swapping, which is very rare these days.
There have been occassions where my hubby is having sex with the other guys wife with a nice hardone..if you know what i mean, and i am getting the soft end of the deal. When this happens, my hubby would stop and come to me, and say to the other guy, sorry mate it is not all about your misses, but about mine too, so you go to your wife and let me look after mine.lol
You see it is simply not that important. You must also remember that there is a big difference in Having sex and Making love.
We simply Fuck others, but make love with eachother.
No conncections at all to the other people, or person, they are simply a tool in our journey on our own desires.
Can i suggest clubs are the best place to go to seek this fun.
So your research, make sure they are clean and not overwhelmed with single guys.
Sometimes going to someones house is a little off putting , cause you feel you cannot escape if you want to, where as in a club, you can simply move on to the next couple and chat etc.
Read the rest here: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Adult-Swinging-2707/2009/2/Couple-Considering-Swinging.htm
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